You know how people keep telling you to listen to your heart? Do you find it helpful? Some times? All the time? Never?
Here’s what comes to my mind when someone tells me to listen to my heart:
1. My heart has made some very stupid decisions in the past. VERY stupid.
2. My heart desires that super expensive dress that I can’t afford.
3. My heart keeps longing for that relationship that is no more.
4. My heart is very upset and wants me to punch you in the face.
5. My heart thinks if I wait long enough, Sherlock Holmes will come along for real. Just for me.
6. My heart wants to eat lots of bacon and fries. Right now.
Well, you know. The heart wants what the heart wants.
We laughed at silly things
And coffee “gave us wings”
We shopped and shopped
Until our credit limits popped
We giggled and glared
All of our troubles we shared
Sticking by each other through thick and thin
Wondering if our bet on GG was gonna win
We quoted FRIENDS on a daily basis
At that, people sneered and made faces
Gossip brought us together and tore us apart
But from these memories, we will never part
Someday, down the broken road we might
Cross paths and know we never gave up the fight
Out of all the silliness, we will know for sure
Arose a friendship so sweet and so pure
Even now that we are miles apart
You will always have a special place in my heart
Have you ever had an ex that made you smile every time he entered your thoughts? The kind that you care about even after things didn’t exactly work out for you two?
This is what I’d like to call “Residual Love”. You are not in love with that person, but will always have feelings for him no matter what happened between you two. There is always going to be a “what if” scenario despite knowing fully well that things will not work out.
It’s not the same as being in love. It’s what’s left of love for that person.
Residual love allows you to remain friends with that person. Count on them when it matters most. Secretly imagine what it would be like if things worked out for you two. Or not. It could simply be genuinely being happy for that person in their major or minor victories.
The only way it will completely go away is if things ended badly or if you have found greater love in another.
All of us have experienced this at some point in our lives. Some have found their greater love and moved on into the realms of true love with someone really special. And some of us are yet to find greater love. So until then, we make do with the residual love and hope to the Almighty that greater love will come rescue us some day.
“The best lessons we learn in life are those we already know but need to be reminded of.” – Evangeline Shetty